Notes From Dad: Keeping Love Alive

Notes From Dad: Keeping Love Alive

Recently my wife and I celebrated our 29th year of marriage. Many people these days are not as fortunate as us. There may be several reasons ( lack of affection due to work and stress, family interference, money issues, lack of communication/friendship and no longer sharing same goals or interests).  

The secrets of a happy marriage are quite simple, treat your partner the way you wish to be treated. We all benefit by having a best friend to go to and vent and share our good/bad news. Focus on your partner being that person, it will bring you closer and create a bond that says “I am here for you”. Be spontaneous, keep growing and expanding your own life so you bring something new to the partnership – share a new interest, like date or movie night, volunteer at charity organizations and /or joining a fitness center but do something different and together. This keeps you and your partner active and both of you will feel your relationship energized. However, do allow separate time time for you and your partner because you both need to experience your own interest.

Finally make time for intimacy. The late Stan Dale defined intimacy as “into-me-see; in other words”, allowing oneself to be seen by another person. With intimacy, you will know what makes each other angry, sad, happy, scared, and turned on. No topic is off-limits, and the both of you will gain trust and keep love alive in your marriage.