It happens to every couple, don’t be fooled to think you
are the only couple that have conflict. Today we look at
some everyday conflicts and attempt how to resolve them.
The first conflict is who’s the boss. This is a serious one because
if married, your personal independence and self-esteem becomes
almost non- existent. A working relationship with two established
people means there is no person in charge; working to resolve
issues can happen when you respect and love one another.
The next issue may be personality conflict in other words do
opposites really attract; the answer is yes and no; if your
personalities are opposite, the sad truth is that most relationships
become increasingly brittle and most relationships fail. Couples with
the same personality traits may feel less stress and pressure when
facing a conflict. Their similar traits allow each others to resolve a
conflict with little or no negative feelings toward one another.
Intimacy or lack of may create a genuine conflict, especially in a
long term relationship that was once very satisfying; intimacy does
not just pertain to sex it also encompasses feelings of the heart and
mind; It may be difficult but couples can survive, however, what may
happen is that one or both of you may become unhappy and less
secure in your relationship and the partnership may become
unhappy for both of you.
The last conflict, although there are many others, is that absence
of goals. There needs to be a game plan for the future, a purpose.
Some goals may be owning a home, having children, staying
intimate and making each other top priority. Ways to avoid conflict
is to communicate feelings, especially when you or your partner feel
unhappy with an issue. Stay true to your feelings; be yourself and
develop social behavior skills, such as tone of voice, trust and
openness between each other. Remember to resolve a conflict all
you need to be is honest and true to yourself.