How to Make Up
Whether a couple, which may be married or not, we all have moments
in our relationships that we argue, it happens. How you respond to
these moments can be crucial in your partnership. This article will provide
some key strategies that may resolve such conflicts.
Identify the true conflict. Many times arguments happen due to another
inner issue that creates tension and anger. Be honest with your partner
and discuss what is truly the issue and be sensitive to one another
Create an atmosphere which is non-threatening; be calm and
respectful; try to set a positive tone to the disagreement and respect each
others point of view.
Establish a time limit to discuss what may be bothering you; if you are
able to accomplish this a lot of unnecessary discourse can be avoided.
Also, the time of day is important, first thing in the morning or right after
work may not be the ideal times to discuss your conflict. Choose a time of
day you both feel relaxed and open to a discussion.
Communicate to your partner what and why you are feeling angered;
you need to establish a connection between each other so that you are
not pointing the finger at only them; establish ground rules and try to stay
positive and address only one issue at a time. Avoid non-verbal
communication such as ( eye rolling, mean or frustrated looks, walking
away), Don’t be too proud to apologize.
Find a release for your anger; sometimes after the discussion or
argument you may still feel anxious or tense; when this happens look for
other options that may help you relax such as a run or workout, listening
to soothing music and/or deep breathing or massage.
Finally, once the discussion/argument is done, then move on. Treat
one another as you want to be treated. Together plan something that will
ignite the spark and help to rekindle your feelings toward one another.