Couples and Conflicts

Couples and Conflicts

The good news is that there is a solution for when this happens; the bad news is that many couples wait til it's too late to resolve such problems. This article will explore some of the reasons and ways to possibly remedy the conflict before it spirals out of control. Let’s begin by identifying some conflicts that, left unsolved, can lead to difficult cohabitation and possible breakup.

After doing some research by talking to numerous couples, the number one conflict that seemed to occur in each relationship is the inability to communicate. Couples feel that their partner tends to just listen but not absorb what is being said; this can lead to frustration and self-doubt in your partnership. Improper communication skills can lead to misinformation and poor social skills. Words are being said but understanding is not.

Some ways to improve communication skills with your partner is to begin each statement with “I”, by doing this you are expressing what you are feeling and not placing blame. Another way to better your communication is to admit there’s a problem as quickly as possible, don’t put it aside as that can lead to more problems. Find the right moment and say what you mean, not what you think they want to hear.

Another conflict that some of the couples I spoke to was personal space. Sometimes when two people begin a relationship there is a loss of their independence; your life as you once knew it, will no longer be about just you. Personal space is important because it maintains your self-image and independence. Personal space makes for a healthier relationship; one way to achieve this is together, work on a schedule that will help fulfill your needs.

Finally, one more conflict that was mentioned was finances; who controls the money, who does the spending and who pays the bills. You and your partner need to be honest and never lie about income. Some ways to handle finances is to have joint account (usually once married), separate accounts and develop a budget that you both can feel comfortable with; by doing some of the above you may be able to avoid conflicts that will at one point emerge in your relationship.

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