Love the Second Time Around

When a couple decides to end their relationship many questions arise; whose fault, what could I have done better, and is a relationship in the future. Most break-ups have some form of hurt and anger and the process of healing may take awhile. What may be reassuring is that love may happen again and hopefully the second time around is better than the first. This article will offer some suggestions to help you find love once again. There is no guarantee that the second time around will be better, however, if you allow time to heal and reflect, you are positioning yourself in a better atmosphere.

First, examine yourself and identify your strengths; a failed relationship can be a life-skill because it helps to create growth and makes you stronger. Life skills, such as communication, respect and trust, to name a few, may have been missing; examining one’s self may make you feel more confident and help you decide what you want in your relationship.

Second, when you begin a new relationship, you may want to give yourself more time to adapt to change; your feelings will be on alert and you will find yourself more cautious; people tend to learn from their mistakes and the second time around you may go slower due to insecurities.

Third, remember, you are now older and wiser; and acknowledge the fact that to be a successful couple it takes both of you to build a relationship that offers not only love but balance with each other. You want to enjoy interacting with people that you are attracted to and set your own criteria for a partner of your choosing.

Finally, after a failed relationship, don’t look for blame or look back; pamper yourself, surround yourself with positive people who share your thoughts and ideas. Create a magnetism that draws people to you; Happiness is an emotion that might have been the missing ingredient in your last relationship, so if you are willing to take the chance, because now you are wiser, more confident and have improved your self-esteem then you may be ready.

Good Luck !!