Couples and Dealing with Ex-Partners

Couples and Dealing with Ex-Partners

Several months ago my partner and I attended a solemn ceremony for a friend, a sad event that became more anxious because my ex-partner was also in attendance. I am sure this happens all the time yet no one really talks about it until now. Ex-partners do exist, just because they no longer are in your life does not mean your paths will never cross. So, knowing this, let’s explore what to do and not do.

Let’s first discuss what you need to do: Within a new relationship, you want to be honest about people and events in your life. You should explain to your current partner about any ex-partners that have been in your life: trust me it is wiser to be truthful at the beginning of your relationship then trying to explain later. Three important steps need to take place to make this experience a pleasant one.

Number one; communicate with your partner, try to reassure that the past life is just that, a past.

Next, set up a meeting with the ex if warranted, and at this meeting express your current feelings and your commitment to your relationship.

Third, make it clear that any type of mis character statements or negativity of any kind will not be tolerated.

A few things not to do is to keep your ex-partners a secret. This can lead to mistrust and hurt feelings; cutting ties is never easy, however, by having open discussions with your partner you both are showing trust and respect. Also, avoid conversations that will bring your ex into a conversation and never, never compare your ex to your current partner.

In closing, it is important to understand that some ex’s make the best friends even after a relationship has ended; so avoid the anxious behavior by being honest and knowing that the ex was once part of your life, but no longer.

Good Luck !!