Couples and Different Coping Techniques

Couples and Different Coping Techniques

I recently attended a meeting that had several couples, and the topic was how to handle difficult times and what were some of the techniques that worked for them to move past the problem. I was impressed by their views and I would like to share them within this article.

We all have some sort of problems; problems that can take over a couple’s life; Today we will focus on three common problems that seemed to be the center of conversation with the group with whom I met.

The first, was lack of intimacy: Each couple had different problems but the main focus was the frequency and the lack of emotional connection. Couples that may feel this way may develop a low -self esteem, trust issues and lack of any desire to please their partner. The way to deal with this is to set time aside for each other, plan romantic get togethers and work on improving self-worth.

The next problem is money: money was once called “the root of all evil”, however, it’s the lack of money that is the problem. Many couples feel that lack of income creates stressful and anxious moments in their relationship. Couples tend to spend out of their limits, get behind in debt and struggle to make ends meet. The outcome results in blame, anger and ashame. Ways to fix this concern is very simple, yet it takes a sincere effort on both couple’s. The first thing to do as a couple is to make a budget and stick to it determine what is a need and what is a want: second, avoid credit cards, as the interest rate will cause you stress and take forever to pay off, and finally pay for what you need in cash and you will actually see savings begin to grow in your bank.

Finally, which I found interesting, was that some of the couples felt their partner did not help out with household responsibilities. This develops stress and a feeling you are alone in this management. The idea that only one person is responsible for housework chores not only creates animosity but an imbalance in your relationship. The way to fix this is to make a chore chart and some form of reinforcement that will want them to do such a task. Remember four hands can get things done better than two hands.

Good Luck !!