Couples and In-Laws

Couples' first challenging moment is when they meet each other's parents. The anxiety and anticipation can be extraordinary; what you say, how you say it and your own beliefs. As the woman in this relationship, his parents will be looking at how you stare into each other's eyes, your mannerisms and your views such as children, goals and beliefs.

Many parents, especially mothers, may at first see you as a threat; why, because you are replacing them as the main focus, you are no longer the first priority. This is difficult to achieve and some mothers may never accept that change. Also, future mother-in-laws want to know about your inner strengths; are you someone who pouts if you don’t get your way or do you pick your battles when there is a difficult situation. Where as dad’s main concern is how respectful you are, how pretty you are, if you have a sense of humor and if you can cook. Most of the time, it may take several meet and greet sessions at one another’s home, where so much can be unveiled pertaining to cleanliness, neatness and order within your home.

As the man, you too will be scrutinized, especially by her dad. After all you are taking away his baby girl; his daughter, who he has protected and loved since birth. When meeting the dad be prepared to answer such questions as; what type of job you have, questions about your family, and why have you chosen his daughter. Dads’ also want to know, how you will be taking care of their little girl and your goals for the future. Mothers on the other hand, will look for looks, if you are making her daughter happy and if you can take care of her financially.

Many parents are also concerned about family involvement; are both of you close and loyal to your family, is family important and are you both able and willing to make compromises when a family situation arises.

My personal belief as a man is to be honest, respectful and be yourself; don’t try to be someone you are not, for the truth will eventually come out. Remember, deep down they may be nervous as well and want nothing but happiness for their son or daughter.

Good Luck !!