April 17, 2021

Couples - Do you think your relationship is better than others?

Notes From Dad

Couples - Do You think Your Relationship is Better than Others?

We all want to think that and hopefully your relationship is better than others, however, be careful not to look at other relationships and wish yours was like theirs. Focus on positive elements in your partnership and stay away from negativity which may cause anger and jealousy. Let’s explore some components that make up a healthy relationship.

First component is self-respect for you and respect for your partner. When you are with your partner you acknowledge that they have their own thoughts and beliefs and you value their opinions and feelings.

The second component is keeping the past in the past. The past cannot be changed; however, the present and future can and both partners need to agree that the past is no longer a concern. People learn from their mistakes and we only can hope that most relationships move forward not backwards,

The third one is to provide happiness for one another; happiness can be verbal, such as please and thank you, or non verbal like holding hands when walking together. One key concept is treat others the way you wish to be treated.

The fourth component is one that some couples may not work hard enough on, it’s simple, just have fun. Take sunset walks, have a date night, cook meals together, go to yard sales etc. Having fun together does not have to be expensive but the joy it brings may be priceless.

Lastly, show compassion to each other; don’t confuse compassion with passion; compassion is able to feel one’s pain while passion is based more on the intimacy relationship. Showing compassion towards one another shows the ability of good communication. Compassion builds a strong foundation that may inspire deep love and commitment.

Good Luck !!