Who says grooms don't care about planning their weddings? Research shows men care a great deal about their weddings -- over half of grooms polled said they had the final say on their wedding dates, while 60 percent of couples said grooms are much more hands-on in planning their wedding than they were several years ago.
Wedding coordinators throughout the nation also state they are seeing a boost in the level and intensity of involvement from grooms in the wedding-planning process, and have taken to calling them groomzillas after their well-known bridal counterparts.
Such reactions shouldn't be surprising when 42 percent of men polled believe they can plan a wedding as well as their lady counterparts. After all, why shouldn't they? There's nothing wrong with a man taking an interest in all the details of his wedding day. It's the biggest day of his life too, and he should enjoy it as much his bride or other groom.
Aside from having an impeccable sense of style and design aesthetic, what factors would turn an otherwise mild-mannered groom into a groomzilla? Ego, perhaps, or maybe just a need to fulfill a lifelong fantasy of having the wedding of his dreams?
Some speculate a more practical reason for the rise of the groomzilla: money. Over 40 percent of weddings are being paid at least in part by the happy couple. Also, with 24 percent of couples choosing destination weddings and 60 percent of those weddings fully paid for by the couple, you can see how the groom might want more say so in how the wedding turns out.
In the past, when the bride's family was paying for the entire affair, deferring to the bride made more sense. If her mom and dad are the ones paying, then the bride-to-be is the last authority on all wedding event purchases and details. However, when the groom is economically accountable or the couple is chipping in together, then the groom should have a much larger role in decision-making. Whatever the reason for the rise of the more involved groom, go ahead and fully embrace your inner groomzilla.
Obsess over the all the details of the wedding. Spend hours deciding the cummerbund and tie combo for your tux. Ponder what your groomsmen will wear and whether their shoes should have a shiny or matte finish. Fret over the drink selections for the reception. And if it's an outside wedding, feel free to wonder whether doves or balloons are more appropriate to release after you take your vows.
If you feel like choosing the font style for the wedding event invites, selecting both the groomsmen and the bridesmaid's presents, having your very own groom shower or tasting every dish for the wedding reception, don't be scared -- embrace the crazy and go for it. Pitch a fit when your fiancee rearranges your sitting arrangements, cry at the stress all the wedding planning is bringing you and, by all means, stomp your feet and pout when your idea of arriving at the wedding in a wedding carriage shaped like a Ferrari and pulled by six mustangs is deemed too expensive and impractical.
Now, If at any point your groomsmen are no longer returning your phone calls, your parents are trying to disown you and your bride-to-be is threatening divorce before you're even married, it may be time to dial things back a bit. Don't panic. Just grab a snickers, put on your I'm Getting Married playlist, take a hot bubble bath and remind yourself why you're doing all this planning in the first place. Once you're calm, you can go back to planning The Best Wedding Ever as a nicer, gentler groomzilla -- who still gets his way, of course.
Ultimately, it's the greatest day of your life, so tell your bride she isn't the only "Zilla" in town. It's past time groomzillas get their fair share of the spotlight. Do you and enjoy every minute of it.
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