Whether a couple, which may be married or not, we all have moments in our relationships that we argue, it happens. How you respond to these moments can be crucial in your partnership. This article will provide some key strategies that may resolve such conflicts.
Identify the true conflict. Many times arguments happen due to another inner issue that creates tension and anger. Be honest with your partner and discuss what is truly the issue and be sensitive to one another.
Create an atmosphere which is non-threatening; be calm and respectful; try to set a positive tone to the disagreement and respect each others point of view.
Establish a time limit to discuss what may be bothering you; if you are able to accomplish this a lot of unnecessary discourse can be avoided. Also, the time of day is important, first thing in the morning or right after work may not be the ideal times to discuss your conflict. Choose a time of day you both feel relaxed and open to a discussion.
Communicate to your partner what and why you are feeling angered; you need to establish a connection between each other so that you are not pointing the finger at only them; establish ground rules and try to stay positive and address only one issue at a time. Avoid non-verbal communication such as ( eye rolling, mean or frustrated looks, walking away), Don’t be too proud to apologize.
Find a release for your anger; sometimes after the discussion or argument you may still feel anxious or tense; when this happens look for other options that may help you relax such as a run or workout, listening to soothing music and/or deep breathing or massage.
Finally, once the discussion/argument is done, then move on. Treat one another as you want to be treated. Together plan something that will ignite the spark and help to rekindle your feelings toward one another.
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